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Software filters aren't a perfect solution; some nasty sites can slip through, while educational or family-rated sites may be blocked.So while some parents may wonder whether monitoring means they're spying on their kids, the safety factor often wins out.And cyberbullies don't witness their victims' reactions, the way they might if they insulted others to their faces."They don't see you crying," Handy says, which may make it easier for them to continue.Once she began dating him, a jealous girl flooded her computer with a stream of nasty messages."She'd say, 'I hate you; leave the school,' and she called me every name in the book," says Handy, now an 18-year-old senior in New Jersey.Some cyberbullies pose as their victims and send out harassing messages to others.Recently, cyberbullies have also begun posting humiliating videos of other kids they dislike, says Parry Aftab, a cyberspace security and privacy lawyer who also serves as executive director of Wired Safety.org, one of the largest Internet safety education groups in the world.
Many post pictures, videos or notes online that they later regret.Mary Ellen Handy had a painful crash course in the dangers of the Internet.The trouble started in her freshman year of high school after a dispute over a boy's affections."If you get the monitoring software, put it on the computer and forget that it's there," Aftab says.That way, if someone's viewing porn, you'll have the records to deal with it.