Dating personality disorder
His cute little gestures produce only temporary bliss on my part.
No matter what he does, I’m officially positive that he’s going to leave, and it feels unbearable. I’m pleasant, bubbly, overbearingly validating — because that’s what I want from the relationship: validation, confidence, safety.
Things become even more complicated if you are dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
While the beginnings of a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might take you to the greatest euphoric heights imaginable, it can also take you to the lowest lows.
Take Urban Outfitters’ “depression T-shirt,”or the well-documented and unconquerable pro-anorexia websites and Tumblr blogs as particularly saddening examples.
I ride on the high of a new and dazzling possibility. Phase 2: He does something to rock my faith in the relationship. I’m terrified that this person who I was so sure would fix the emptiness I live with every day is going to leave me and it will hurt.This time I’ll be able to hold down a stable relationship, I tell myself. It’s usually something small — he doesn’t text me back as quickly, he doesn’t seem as excited to see me that day, he checks his watch during a date — and suddenly my whole world is falling apart. Phase 3: So, I start to push back, just a little — I don’t want to drive him off completely.In my efforts to keep him, I resolve never to be the first one to text him, to invite him to do something, to talk to him at all.Before it gets that far, however, here are some things you can look out for to see if your partner has BPD and if they need help: These are just some of the warning signs that you might be dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.If you feel your partner has BPD, encourage them to get BPD treatment.